Monday, October 28, 2013

October 28 - Week...8....? I don't know anymore!

Dear family and friends,

So I have discovered several things this week! One: I'm staying here in Santa Rosa another transfer with my trainer (aka my "mom" in my mission)! So my address is still 3717 Sonoma Avenue #2, Santa Rosa, CA 95405 until mid-December at least.

Another thing I discovered is that our apartment has fleas...gross.  You'd think that would only happen in foreign missions, but nope! It happened to me in Santa Rosa, CA.  Everyone loves their pets here, though, so I'm guessing that's where the fleas came from - an investigator's house or something. Thus, we had to bug bomb our apartment...I have the most HILARIOUS video about it, but I forgot my camera cord...whoops.  I'll send it next week! I will tell you that the senior couple in charge of apartments did a cleaning check at our apartment and we showed them some bites we kept getting, and they said, "Oh no. You have fleas." Then later that day they gave us "bug bombs," these little cans that you press down and they release this disgusting smelling fog into the air.  So we released them and then ran outisde our apartment...and then realized we forgot the keys inside.  Haha I was feeling brave, so I took a deep breath, put my jacket over my mouth, and ran inside through the fog and scrambled to find the keys.  Which I did...and the rest of the day I smelled like a bug bomb.  Oh well. Now we don't have any more bites from fleas!!  Yay!!!

Also, something super cool happened: we set up a booth at both college universities, so we are finding people like CRAZY!  They come up to us and ask what religion we are and gah it's just so cool to find people that way! We had to start thinking out of the box because we weren't finding anyone, and this way of finding is working great:)

ANOTHER cool thing I discovered is that I LOVE soccer.  On P-Days we play soccer and I have SUCH a blast and absolutely love it, so I need to practice when I get home!  I look forward to many things on P-Days, but the two top ones are one: e-mailing, and two: playing soccer.  My companion played soccer all high school, too, so she's teaching me lots of cool moves and how to juggle the ball and such.

I just wanted to say that from this week, I've really come to know that what matters most to the Lord is what we do AFTER we think we've done enough.  It's about running the 2nd mile when we feel like the 1st mile was enough.  That's when the blessings really flow.  I started feeling like, "I've done enough" but it's never enough.  The Lord gave up His LIFE for us - I can give up 18 months of mine.  Think of what happened to Joseph Smith when he first prayed for an answer: he felt enveloped in darkness.  He could have stopped and said, "I've done enough." But he didn't.  He kept praying and because of that, because of his diligence, he saw Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ and we have the restored Gospel of Jesus Christ on the earth once again.

So my message to you all this week: when you feel like turning inward, turn OUT!  Push on, even when you feel like "that's enough."  That's what the Savior did his entire life.  Even hanging in agony on the cross, he told John to take care of his mother, Mary.  He preached the Gospel to the two thieves he was hanging with on the cross and said, "today you will be with me in paradise."  We are forever indebted to our Savior - don't give up!  Push forward.  When you feel like you've doen enough, do more, and that's when you'll see the blessings flow.  I can promise you that!  I love you all, choose the right and love like Jesus Christ loves us:)

With love,

Sister Kolee Decker

P.S. Grandma and Grandpa Decker and Clay, the assistant ward mission leader in the ward I'm serving in (Redwoods YSA) told me you know him!  He served in South Carolina - Elder Freebairn is his name (Steven Freebairn.)  Do you remember him??  He wanted me to tell you that he loves you and says hello!  Such a small world!

Monday, October 21, 2013

October 21 - Week 7.....1/2

I'm almost on week 8!!  Crazy how time flies here...It's so true that the days go by like weeks but the weeks go by like days.

OKAY.  So many sad, happy, amazing, miraculous, weird, odd things happened this week.

1. We were FINALLY able to have 4 lessons with 3 less-active members of our ward we've been trying to get a hold of this entire transfer.  And we had the coolest lesson with a less-active, Robby.  He told us right after we said a prayer with him, "wow, I finally feel the Spirit again. Don't leave!" It was the perfect opportunity to talk to him about his baptismal covenant that if he keeps his end of the deal, he will "always have the Spirit to be with him."  Also, he told us that he started drinking at school but that he's been trying so hard to stop.  He told us he recognizes the difference between fleeting pleasures like getting drunk and partying and of true happiness, like innocent, wholesome fun that occurs when he hangs out with members.  We also had a cool lesson with Monica and Meagan and set another couple up with other less active members these next few weeks.

2. ODD STORY. A member of a family ward, Sister Wilson, called us and invited us over to dinner the next day to talk to her inactive son who wanted to come back to church to live a better life and eventually find a wife (I'm in a singles' ward, if you remember haha...lots of matchmaking occurs at church every week). So we go over to her house to meet her boy, Logan, and talk to him about activities he can come to and church and all that jazz.  We go inside and there are flies EVERYWHERE.  And this woman was HUGE.  When she sat down her belly rested on the floor...then she told us about her boyfriend who is 22 (her son Logan's age)...and then we found out that she is 49!!!  Weird, right?  It's not over yet. She wasn't finished making dinner, so we waited and asked if she needed help but she said no.  Instead, she had her son Logan finish dinner and then she sat on the couch in the living room (a separate room away from the kitchen where we are) and started looking at her sticker collection (yes, that's right, her sticker collection. That was kinda cool to see, though).  So dinner's all ready and she gets up and tells us that she'll just sit in the other room while us (me and 3 other sisters) eat.  Logan's just standing awkwardly saying he already ate but watching us eat and we felt weird so we weren't talking and for some reason random people kept coming in and out of the kitchen and leaving and coming inside the house (but really, there were 4 or 5 different people who came in and meandered around the house and then left).  And the mom, Sister Wilson, was still sitting in a different room, looking at her stickers.  And there were a few boxes stacked right behind the chair I was sitting in and two CATS were eating their food right behind my head and one of them tooted and it smelled and there were flies everywhere and then this crazy lady came in and told Logan to give him a kiss and he did and then she was like, "kiss me again!" and......yep. That's basically it.  SO. WEIRD.

3. Ray's baptism got postponed :( He had his interview on Tuesday and told Elder Mair, our zone leader, that he had smoked on Monday.  It was really sad.  We went in and talked to Ray and soon as he saw us he started BAWLING.  He said he felt so bad and that he tried so hard to stop.  It was really sad to see him like that and we all ended up crying together, but we told him that this gospel is one of change and becoming better, and that just needs to try his best to follow Jesus Christ and repent.  Ray hasn't slipped up, now :) His baptismal date is changed to November 2nd and we're glad, because then we realized he still has some questions he needs to gain a testimony of.

4. We also had to move our 2 other investigators dates back unfortunately.  All 3 of them are struggling with addictions and need more time to overcome them.  But they are doing so well, and striving to overcome them.  Sister De Rurange and I gave up treats and sweets to help them.  We said, "if you're giving up something, so are we." And now it's pretty cool because they have a support system:)  Also, I feel much better not eating junk food!

5. We're teaching my friend Jenee Hjelmstad's family, the Foleys.  They are AMAZING.  I'll write more about them later because I'm running out of time.

I think we've been having so much success because this week my companion and have taken President Hinckley's dad's advice: "forget yourselves and get to work."  And I feel SO happy right now:)  It's true that when you forget yourself in the service of the Lord, you find yourself.  This week has been one of the hardest on the mission, but one of the most rewarding, and the happiest so far.  Here's to another week on the mission!  Only 73 more to go! :) I love you all!

With love,

Sister Nikole Decker

P.S. Scriptures to look up for peace and comfort:
Isaiah 41:10
John 14:27
2 Timothy 1:7
1 Nephi 1:20
Jacob 3:1
Jacob 4:7
Mosiah 4:27
Mosiah 24:13-14
Alma 7:12
Alma 26:27
Alma 38:5
Ether 12:27
D&C 6:32-36
D&C 58:2-4
D&C 122:7-9
Helaman 5:12

P.P.S. AMAZING thing I came upon in the scriptures to help people understand the importance of being baptized into Jesus Christ's restored church:
READ IN ORDER
John 14:6,27 & Matthew 11:28-30 - How do we come unto Christ?
Matthew 7:13-14 answers that question, but what is the gate?
2 Nephi 31:17, 2 Nephi 33:9, and John 3:5 answer what the gate is.  But how do we know the Book of Mormon verses are of God just as the Bible verses are?  And how do I know that baptism is God's will?
2 Nephi 31:10-13, James 1:5, Moroni 10:3-5, 2 Nephi 33:10 answers that question: just ask.  And the scripture in Matthew (can't remember the reference) that says, "Ask and ye shall receive."

I am so grateful for scripture study.  It's incredible the things you learn when you really dive into the scriptures.  Love you all!!

Monday, October 14, 2013

October 14 - Week...6 1/2

Hi family and friends!
Okay I only have 20 minutes so this week's e-mail will probably be shorter, but hope you enjoy it! 

To be honest, this week has been a really, really tough one.  I haven't broken down and cried (well, I sometimes do in lessons from feeling the Spirit, but I haven't broken down and cried from stress or being homesick or anything like that) so I'm happy!  It's just that being a missionary isn't easy.  The people who turn us down day after day after day...sometimes it wears on me.  Now I understand when the prophets in the Bible and Book of Mormon always end up crying unto the people to repent and lamenting over their wickedness, because that's what happens when we (we meaning Sister De Rurange and I) preach the Gospel of Jesus Christ.  What's the hardest is when we feel prompted to go up and talk to someone, and then we do, and they just turn us down right off the bat.  But I do recognize that sometimes we are stepping stones, and eventually, a set of missionaries will talk to them, and they will be ready to be healed by Jesus Christ and come unto Him.

I wanted to share two miracles that happened to me this week.  Last Tuesday, one of our investigators texted Sis. De Rurange and I and told us that once again, he had succumbed to his addiction to pornography.  He's been trying to get over it because he has a testimony of the Gospel and of the Atonement, but it's been really hard for him to because he's been an addict since he was 9...he's 21 today.  For 12 years.  Boys, STAY AWAY from pornography.  It is NOT love - it is lust.  Anything that is beautiful and sacred Satan can twist and turn until it becomes ugly and perverted, and that is exactly what pornography is.  It is selfish, it is lustful, and it is wrong to look at or think about or watch.  DON'T EVEN GLANCE AT IT.  It's so sad to see him struggle with this horrible addiction, and it makes me sad to think about others who struggle as well.

Moving on, we knew he needed help, but we didn't know how to help him, so we asked two elders in our zone to meet us at the chapel and give this young man a blessing.  Sis. De Rurange and I also kept praying before the lesson with our investigator that we would find a way to help him overcome his addiction. A miracle happened: They gave him a blessing to help him resist the temptation, and then IMMEDIATELY after the blessing was over, a man came in and said to our investigator, "Hey, we're having a pornography addiction recovery program tonight in 5 minutes.  Would you like to join us?"
2nd miracle this week: that same investigator wanted to come to church but we couldn't find him a ride, so we prayed to find him a ride, and then I thought of a name: Katie.  We looked her up in our phone and called her, and sure enough, she gave him a ride to church!  Another miracle!  God hears and answers prayers - I can testify of that:)
I love you all and wish you the best!!  Have a miraculous week, and count your blessings:)
With love,
Sister Nikole Decker


Whoops! Forgot a couple of things to put in my group e-mail. 
2 sets of sisters (including my companion and I) and 2 sets of elders sang the "As Sisters in Zion/Army of Helaman" medley in Sacrament Meeting in two wards yesterday and it was SO powerful.  I ended up tearing up and couldn't sing very well because I had tears pouring down my face from feeling the Spirit so strongly.  We are God's army.  "We are now the Lord's missionaries to bring the world His truth." 
Our Bishop asked us to go to Institute with an investigator, Ray (he's getting baptized this coming Saturday, the 19th of October!!), and I learned something mind blowing.  See D&C 19:10-12.  God's name is Endless, Eternal.  Therefore, eternal and endless punishment are God's punishments.  That also means that eternal life is God's life.  God wants us to have eternal life, or HIS LIFE.  WOW.  See Moses 1:39.  My mind was totally blown!!!  I never thought about it that way.  That is so amazing, huh?  God wants us to have eternal life, because His name is Eternal.  So He wants us to have HIS LIFE.  To feel the joy He feels.  I'd never thought of it that way before... But I'm glad I went to Institute with Ray this Thursday!

Monday, October 7, 2013

October 7 - Hullo :)

Dear Family and Friends,

Gah!  I just love being out here!  Northern California's treating me well.  I'm starting to get this lovely three-quarter-sleeve tan line from the shirts and sweaters and blazers I wear, so that's fun!  And today I bought and waterproofed around 4 pairs of my shoes...it was a ripoff haha.  I only got through 4 pairs before it ran out of waterproofing spray!  Oh well...

So it rains on and off here.  Also, the leaves change color!  It's gorgeous.  And the sunsets have been gorgeous as well.  The members are also great!  There are so many quirky, odd people living here haha.  But the cool thing about serving in the singles ward here is that I get to see how people with totally different backgrounds and views and personalities (and I mean REALLY different people...VERY odd and VERY quirky) can get along and "become one" through Jesus Christ and learning about His Gospel.

Lots of crazy stuff happened this week!  First off: Sister De Rurange and I are  getting very creative in our contacting techniques.  We usually will just start walking alongside someone and then ask something like, "Hey there!  So if you could ask a Mormon anything, what would you ask them?"  That one's great, because either a person's never heard of Mormons, or the person goes on about how we only read the Book of Mormon and not the Bible...and then we can pull out our Articles of Faith pass-along cards and read those to them and they are sufficiently humbled...and then we'll ask them if we can come by their home and teach them more sometime!  

Or we give out mormon.org cards with our Facebook pages on it and my mormon.org profile link as well...those mormon.org cards are GREAT!  It's cool contacting college-age students, too, because they're usually trying to figure out who they are and who God is.  But the COOLEST thing is that I have 400 friend requests and dozens of messages on my Facebook from people who've we've given cards to on the street!  It's cool when I read messages that say, "Hey I checked out your profile on mormon.org and I have some questions..." I am SO grateful that our mission is an iPad mission where we can get on Facebook and teach people all over the world.

I've also felt this week that the Second Coming is much sooner than anyone feels.  General Conference should be proof of that!  Last year they lowered the age for missionaries to go out and serve.  They've opened hundreds of new missions.  This year they asked every single member of the church to participate in missionary work (SO COOL!  It takes EVERYONE for this work to move forward, not just set-apart missionaries).  And they repeatedly talked about "hastening the work."  

Then this week the thought just sprang to me: we are now preaching to every nation on Earth.  You know how?  Through Facebook.  We're teaching people in China.  In Cuba.  In Africa.  In the Middle-East.  People from China, especially, are being taught the gospel online, flying to America to get baptized, then flying back to their country and practicing God's Gospel privately in their homes.  The Gospel has reached every corner of the Earth.  It is being preached worldwide.  The Prophet has asked members to participate so that everyone on Earth will have the chance to accept or reject the Gospel before Christ comes.  The Second Coming is much sooner than anyone feels.  But God promises us that as long as we are trying our best, or enduring to the end, we have no need to fear.

I also wanted to share a miracle that happened to me and my companion this Friday:

We were walking down Yulupa Avenue to our ward church building from our apartment and contacting on the way. As we were walking along the street, a semi-truck drove down the road and snapped 2 or 3 low-hanging wires between two electric poles. So naturally, Sister De Rurange and I called 911, which transferred us to the fire station, and we told them about the wires snapping. We were pointing across the road at where the wires lay and a man sweeping his driveway thought we were waving to him, so he yelled across and waved to us, "Come on over!"

We walked to the street light and crossed the crosswalk then walked down the other side to his driveway. He looked so relieved and said, "Have you come to talk to me about Jesus?" We were SO surprised! No one EVER asks us anything like that!  Then he teared up and hugged us (which was weird haha since we're technically not allowed to...but we hugged him back - he needed a hug).  We talked a little bit, but then the firemen came. The lines that snapped were actually only cable lines - I learned that the electric wires are the reeeeally high ones on telephone poles - and the cable company was going to come out and fix them so they would be high enough. We were able to talk to the firemen a little bit about the Gospel AND a couple neighbors that ended up coming outside to see what the ruckus was about.

After they all left, we talked to the man more on his porch and he told us his name was Ryan Hawks, and that he'd met with missionaries multiple times but hadn't in a while. He said he needs help, and that he feels that our church can help him. He's having major issues with his spouse and wants to save their relationship, so he's seeking counseling, but a faith-based counseling. He also is looking for a job and thought maybe there was a person in the LDS church who had a calling to help him find a job. Then he teared up and said, "I had just prayed to God that He would send someone who could help, and right after that I looked across the street and you were there." WOW. God hears us and answers our prayers!

Ryan is a middle-aged man and Sis. De Rurange and I only teach 18-30-year-olds at the moments, so we referred him to the family ward elders to begin teaching him. Also, we set up an appointment with the family ward bishop in that area to meet with Ryan and see how he could help. I don't think it's a coincidence that those wires snapped right in front of us - if they hadn't, we wouldn't have looked across the street, and we wouldn't have seen that man, and we wouldn't have talked to him and discovered his desire to get help and come unto Christ and "be healed."

Another cool thing that happened: later that night we started teaching a new investigator, Jacob.  We discovered that he does all sorts of drugs (sadly, it's SUPER common here) and he started going on and on and on and even BRAGGING about these hardcore, awful drugs he did one night.  He was basically telling us about a drug overdose - how he started losing his sight and then his hearing and how he kept hearing voices in his head - and he kept going on and on and on......I couldn't take it anymore.  So I stood up, looked him straight in the eye, and said so powerfully, "DON'T. DO. THAT." 

He looked alarmed for a minute, and asked, "What?"  

And I repeated, "Don't you EVER put those things into your body again.  You almost died.  Do you think Heavenly Father wants you to put those bad things into your body?  Do you think He gave you your body to abuse like that?  He wants you to be happy - are those drugs making you happy?" 

Jacob teared up and said, "I won't.  I don't even know if God exists, but if He does, He probably doesn't want me to do those things. I'm not happy.  I need help."

Then Sister De Rurange and I and a member who sat in with us, Kaylene, talked to Jacob about how "God loves us so he gave us our bodies..." and taught him the Plan of Salvation.  At the end of the lesson, Jacob kneeled down and offered a beautiful prayer and asked for help.  Then I invited my first investigator to be baptized!  And guess what?  He said yes! 

Ever since then, he's been so humble.  He hasn't done any drugs since that lesson, and has gone from smoking more than a pack of cigarettes a day to nothing.  He wants to be baptized the same day as his friend Ray, who's also been investigating the past few weeks with us.  They're both planning on being baptized October 19th. 

WOW.  That definitely wasn't me doing any of the talking.  It was so inspired - all by the Spirit.  God promises that when we keep His commandments, He will give us "in that very moment the things which you should say."

Other cool news: we have another investigator, Anthony (I think I talked about him in the last e-mail) getting baptized October 26th.  I love teaching the Gospel to those who need it!  Don't ever let a person pass you by without sharing a Book of Mormon or pass-along card with them - my mission president, President Alba, said at a meeting last week with us missionaries, "You never know if the person you pass-up talking to on the street because you were too afraid or too nervous or too busy will never get to hear the Gospel - that passing by each other might be the only time that person will ever come in contact with a member."

So share the Gospel!  It's not scary.  I used to be scared, but now there's a sense of urgency about the work.  Christ is coming again soon, and He is beckoning ALL of his children to come to Him and be healed; to come to Him and be saved.  The only way to make it back to Christ is to "follow thou me" (See 2 Nephi 31), and we have the responsibility and opportunity to help people come unto God in this life.

I just want you all to know that I feel so close to God.  Being out here is so amazing - to anyone young who is thinking about serving a mission: DO IT.  It's so worth it.  To anyone who feels after praying about it that a mission is not for them, don't think that doesn't mean not to spread the Gospel.  It doesn't.  EVERY MEMBER A MISSIONARY.

I love you all and wish you a happy week!  I hope this e-mail wasn't too deep - after Conference I just feel even more excited and feel an even deeper sense of urgency!  Christ is coming, and He wants ALL his brothers and sisters to have the chance to partake in His love.  I can bear testimony that He loves you and me more perfectly and beautifully than we can know, and that all He desires is for us to come to Him.  If we do that, and strive to stay with Him, then we WILL live with our Heavenly Father some day.  I say these things in Jesus' name, Amen.

Until next week!

Love always,

Sister Nikole Decker

Tuesday, October 1, 2013

October 1 - Week....3...and a 1/2?

Hello family and friends!!
I only have about 15 minutes to write you this week...:(  I have to write my mission president first and that took some time since SO much happened this week!  But then again, when doesn't so much happen every week? I'll include what I wrote to him at the end so you can see other snippets of stuff going on in my mission life.

I also have no idea what week I'm on...I think I'm almost finished with my 4th week...so I've been out 3 and a half weeks on my mission?  Oh goodness who knows.  Time's a flying - that's all I can say haha.  So only 76 weeks left!  Wow time's slipping by.

Don't hate me...but I forgot my camera cord that connects to the computer...so no pictures this week....I'm sorry!  It's hard to remember...but just know that my companion is so awesome and pretty and fun and that I also never do my hair...I let it be the way it wants to be haha.  Sometimes I straighten or curl it but it just takes too long!
So I'll give you a quick synopsis of my week: first off - I still LOVE it here.  It's been rainy this week and the rain is so odd here - it's like a consistent mist.  Never any raindrops, just a mist of wet.  I also learned this week that anytime it smells like a skunk outside, it's actually weed (marijuana).  Yup.  Northern California is FULL of weed-smokers.  It's okay, though, we just give them Word of Wisdom pamphlets and convert them!  Haha totally kidding...or am I? ;)
We had a member of the 70 talk to us: Elder Aidukaitis.  He gave us missionaries a kick in our booties this week and said we need to find more quickly and more effectively and to teach shorter lessons...so we've been doing that and guess what?!  We now have 3 baptisms for the month of October!  One is Ray, this awesome kid with a really hard life in and out of abusive foster homes.  But he told us at the last lesson we taught that one time this kid kept hitting him with a screwdriver, so he prayed to God, "God, get me out of here! Get me out of here!"  And literally, later that night, the police came and took him to the hospital and to a new home.  God HEARS our prayers, and He loves us.  I know that he just ACHES when His children are being hurt, because being a representative of Jesus Christ, I can feel Christ's love for them and how much He wants them to come unto him and be healed. We're also teaching a young guy named Anthony and another named Jacob.  Anthony struggles with lots of things, but he's been keeping all his commitments and really trying hard to come unto Christ and repent.  And Jacob is AWESOME!  He came to a baptism with us yesterday and we asked him how he felt and he said, "I feel so happy."  We explained the Holy Ghost to him and he also said that he feels the Holy Ghost has been helping him quit smoking (he smokes almost a pack a day but is really trying to quit).
I have to go, but I want to leave you all with this: God loves you.  He loves EVERYONE.  Also, follow your promptings!  The Spirit uses our knowledge to inspire us, so if we have a common sense thought that's in our head, then it's of the Spirit!  Anything that's good comes from God, I can promise you that.  Also, promises are NOT free.  You have to act in order to receive the promise (See D&C 82:10).  But when you do, the Lord is "bound."  I can testify of that.
And here are some scriptures to look up:
Mark 10:27
Moses 6:32
John 14:15
Malachi 3:8-12
I love you all!  I hope you have a wonderful week - know that you're all in my prayers!  Love you!!!
With love,

Sister Nikole Decker


P.S. Write me!! Address: 3717 Sonoma Avenue
                       Santa Rosa, CA 95405